Can you believe it’s almost 2023? After the past couple years, it’s easy to feel defeated. If you’re feeling like Stella before she got her groove back, we get it. But we also know a little secret. Want to hear it?
You. Are. Powerful.
Yes, you read that right. You are powerful and strong and beautiful and resilient and brave and kind and most importantly…you deserve to thrive. So let’s talk about how you can embrace your power and spend the first half of 2023 reclaiming yourself.
Step one to embracing your power? Making friends with your inner critic. As difficult as she may be, she’s harsh because she’s trying to protect you. So, instead of beating yourself up for getting so mad at yourself when you make a mistake, try thanking your inner critic. Here’s an example: “I know you didn’t mean to send that email before proofreading it. It’s so frustrating that it happened. Thank you for trying to remind me not to do that, I’ve got it from here.” It may feel silly, but it will help your inner critic to know she can step aside. Once you’ve thanked her, try to reframe the thought. Instead of, “I can’t believe I forgot to pay that bill, I’m so stupid”, try “I’ve been so busy today, it makes sense that something would slip through the cracks. Next time I’ll set a reminder for myself.”
Now that we’ve got that pesky inner critic under control, it’s time to show our inner child some love. This one can be tough to do, but it’s one of the most important ways to remember who you are. A simple way to remind yourself of her is to keep a childhood picture in a prominent place in your home. Spend time looking at that photo each day and asking her what she needs. Remember that the way you speak to yourself is a direct reflection to that little girl. She doesn’t deserve anything less than the best, and it’s your job to give that to her. By embracing your inner child, you’ll feel more free to play and have fun, which is such an important part of feeling how powerful you truly are.
Take the time to figure out what truly matters to you. What are your values? What’s important to you? What do you love? While we can’t guarantee that every aspect of life will align with those things, it will give you a baseline to work from and make changes when necessary. For example, if you don’t like to gossip but tend to be around friends who do, you may need to set a boundary. Whether that boundary is to spend time with different people or to let your friends know you won’t be partaking is up to you. Aligning your beliefs with your actions is a surefire way to embrace your power.
Another way to truly step into your power is to make sure you have a work-life balance. It can be so easy to let your 9 to 5 become an 8 to 8, but to live a full life, you need to have times that are sacred. This includes silencing notifications and not responding to emails. Remember, it’s rare that there’s an actual work emergency after hours. The same goes with home life. We can all waste a day scrolling, but remember to make time for movement, self reflection, and hobbies.
Last but not least, focus on your strengths. Flaws are always easy to find, but try to find your strengths first. If you work in sales and are great with people, you might struggle with some of the more menial tasks at work like excel, etc. Who cares? Your company wouldn’t be thriving from your legendary people skills! Embrace the struggles and flip them to rely on those strengths even harder.
We aren’t saying you’ll wake up tomorrow and feel like a million bucks. Learning to embrace who we are and what we bring to the table is a lifelong journey. Give yourself the grace to grow and remember that you deserve to be your best and most powerful self for yourself. Everyone else will benefit from that self love,too!